Personality Quirks/Flaws?

So there is a situation that has made me think about two of my personality quirks or possibly flaws depending on how you look at it.

One of them I understand very well and is tied into my desire to make plans, create expectations and have those expectations more or less met. Usually when I make such plans my expectations do get met, however I've noticed that if I've been invited or otherwise called to meet with friends to do a specific activity, say watch a movie, or play a game, or even discuss a particular topic, and that specific activity doesn't happen. . I get frustrated and annoyed. There are varying degrees depending on a few things but that is true. It's also tied in with a desire for people to do what they say they will do and usually I agree to do said activity. . because I actually want to do it.

So I understand that quirk, and ultimately I really do think people should do what they say they will do and I agree to do or not do something based on what I expect will happen . . so I make no apologies for that. It seems reasonable to me. The other one is possibly a little stranger and I'm not sure if it might be a kind of flaw passed on from my father or not. I'd like to think that if that is true, then I have it to a less bad degree.

The other one is a general desire to do things over *just* sitting and talking. I like to talk. . anyone can tell you that, and often I'm fine with sitting for a couple of hours and just talking. I like to catch up, I like to discuss philosophy and whatever. There is a point, probably the 2.5 to 3 hour mark that I start to get antsy. It does definitely depend on the subject of conversation and possibly who I'm talking with. . but unless I'm deeply engrossed in a particular topic I probably start to get bored with *just* talking after a certain point. Especially if we aren't talking about anything of substance or if the conversation turns to thinks like celebrities or. . world of warcraft. Actually I'm not sure if I specifically get antsy or just get bored with certain topics. . . In any case I often prefer to *do* something if we are not talking about something that is particularly engrossing.

And that's it. Am I terrible for getting antsy? Should I learn to be more flexible? Hmmm it seems less bad when I write it out than when I was thinking about it. . but I'm not sure if I'm making it sound better when typing or worse when thinking. I know I don't want to be like my dad who sometimes it seems *can't* just have a conversation and has trouble not reading while at the dinner table and gets annoyed if one takes more than 30 seconds to make a decision when playing a game. . . I don't want to be that impatient and that dependent on constantly *doing* something. . .

I also kinda think these quirks or flaws are not so bad unless put together and then the one compounds the other. Not watching the movie and instead chatting about things I don't care about just makes me want to bash my head in. Also obviously it isn't usually so extreme a situation and I often do participate in conversation and even enjoy it but when waiting to do something. . . the conversation enjoyment can sour after a certain point.

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Faith, Religion, and Evidence

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2010-08-13

10 things I love about you (where you is life and stuff)

was reminded by a friend about doing these again: things I'm grateful for-

1. Got plenty of sleep last night.
2. played fun games last night.
3. Had great help to rearrange my living room.
4. my bike and car both work well.
5. I've got plenty of money to pay my bills.
6. feeling like romance isn't impossible
7. feeling more and more o.k. with doing things alone.
8. My parents are coming up to see Hair tomorrow.
9. My sister is caring and likes to remind me to do things that are good for me. :) (like go to bed)
10. I'm in the middle of quite a few wonderful stories. :)

important post in someone else's blog

Just in case you haven't seen this. . in the other places I've posted it yet. :)

the history of marriage

Inception

O.k. Kids, so I just saw the movie, and I want to talk about it. I'm starting with people I know who have seen it because I don't intend to hold back with spoilers. Fortunately you probably can't see the wave unless you are viewing the blog directly. So if you do so, there will probably be spoilers. If you have seen it, by all means view the blog directly and comment either in the wave or in comments. Please do so. . . I saw it by myself and am dying to get more people's takes on the movie.